Karen Rivers, What is Real

Something last night that a dear friend’s experience reminded me of… there will always be some one looking to blame you for your own abusive situation.

Did you not fight back? Then you were weak and enabling/allowing them to abuse you and omg I would never do that if I was in that situation I totally would have kicked their asses right back, if you were too afraid then that’s your fault for being abused.

On the flip side, though… DID you fight back? Even if all you did was defend yourself? Well then you’re no better than your abuser, clearly! You’re just as violent and violence never solves anything, tsk tsk. If you’re the type to fight, clearly you probably provoked your abuser. You should always turn the other cheek, I would turn the other cheek so I could remain blameless and incriminate the abuser. If you fight back you’re just playing right into their hand. How dare you.

I emphasized the I in there because people are most likely blaming you out of a fearful defense, hoping if they find some reason (no matter how hypocritical or vague) that it was your fault, it means that if they ever find themselves in a bad situation that they’ll be able to escape it easily. That it can’t happen to them, because whatever happens was something the victim did to themselves – if they don’t do these things, they’ll be fine! In actuality MOST the time people grasp at straws and try to blame you, it’s not about you – it’s about them and their selfish fear.

It’s bullshit. It’s all bullshit. This is not how abuse works.

So I know this is hard, but if anyone pulls this shit with you when you talk about your abuse, fuck them. I don’t give two shits WHY they’re doing it (the paragraph up there where I explained how this is usually fear is NOT me condoning that bullshit). They’re afraid? So were you… hell, abuse doesn’t just up and go away when the abuser does, so you might STILL be afraid and yet here you are speaking out about what happened to you. That’s huge, that’s brave. Fuck anyone who tries to ruin that for you.

It’s easy for someone to joke about scars if they’ve never been cut.

William Shakespeare, Romeo & Juliet: Act 2, Scene 2. (via likeanoldstory)

“He jests at scars that never felt a wound.”

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I have stretch marks.

smallerbenz:

Reblog if you do too. Just to prove that it is more normal than what people actually think.

I crave space. It charges my batteries. It helps me breathe. Being around people can be so exhausting, because most of them love to take and barely know how to give. Except for a rare few.

Katie Kacvinsky, First Comes Love (via wordsnquotes)

themyskira:

Here’s something I didn’t know until yesterday: all of the world’s songbirds can be traced back to Australia. Or, at least, a western portion of the supercontinent Gondwana, which would become Australia.

The evidence has been there for us to find, but for over two centuries it was simply assumed that Australia’s songbirds were descended from Northern Hemisphere ancestors. When in the 1980s Australian scientists first floated evidence that the opposite was true – that all the songbirds of the Northern Hemisphere originated in Australia – they were laughed at. But over the next couple of decades, mounting evidence from DNA and fossil studies proved them right.

Australia was the birthplace of all of today’s songbirds, pigeons and parrots, and knowing this helps to explain some things about our own native birds. Compared to those of other continents, Australian birds are more likely to be intelligent, loud, aggressive, melodious, socially cooperative and environmentally influential. In part, that’s because they had an evolutionary head start on the rest of the world.

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